“Love” is a notoriously difficult thing to define.
The word sounds so simple, yet defies a simple definition.
We throw it around like a Frisbee.
“I love you.” “I love my kids.” “I love my spouse.” “I love a Cab Sav.” “I love Sunday football.”
You know what I really love? Vanilla ice cream with Reese’s Cups in it!
The problem we run into is that the love I have for my kids, the love I have for my wife, and the love I have for vanilla ice cream with Reese’s Cups in it aren’t the same kind of love.
That might explain the email I recently received about a blog post I wrote a while back that went a little viral, The One Thing That Can Save the Church (and the One Thing That Is Stopping That One Thing.)
The email simply asked me, “What is your definition of ‘love’?”
Well, as I just pointed out, “love” is a notoriously difficult thing to define.
Plus, we mean all kinds of different things when we use the word “love.”
My response to the email was to point out the difficulty in defining the word “love” and then I proceeded to define the word “love.”
Here’s the key part of my response: “… I can give a feeble, overly simplified (as is my tendency) definition of the agape-love I talk about in my article. Something like, ‘a selfless, unconditional caring for others’ seems sort of like what my understanding is. In this case, I also happen to think that it is rooted in who God is and, to borrow from the Hindu tradition, I believe it is connected to recognizing the divine in others.”
The thing is, after a few days of thinking about it – I was wrong.
Maybe not “wrong,” “incomplete” may be a better description of my response.
I should have said love is “a selfless, unconditional caring for others – in this life.”
You see, there are those who express their “love” of others by beating them with a Bible – judging their behavior, condemning them, attempting to controlling their every action.
To me, that doesn’t look very much like love.
To them, they think it is loving because they believe they are saving them from eternal damnation.
I have a problem with that and it has little to do with the fact that I don’t believe in Hell.
The folks who are trying to “love” the Hell out of other people identify themselves as Christians – people who follow Christ.
And therein lies my problem.
Throughout his ministry, Jesus was primarily concerned with how people were treated in the ‘here and now.’ As it turns out, he didn’t do a lot of “loving” the Hell out of people.
He just loved the hell out of people.
The fact is, if we Christians could just focus on loving the hell out of people in this life, in the ‘here and now,’ and let God worry about the next life – the world we live in would look a lot less like Hell to most people than it does right now.
Love may be a notoriously difficult thing to define, but most folks sure do know it when they see it.
Let’s show it to them.